Those coming from Tumblr: If you can provide proof of godspouses of Loki (or other Norse deities) in the Eddas or any of the old Norse writings, I invite them; this is not all “personal opinion.”
I have recently read a number of people claiming to be one of Loki’s godspouses, and heard a few even claim that if you wish to worship Loki, you must be His godspouse.
Let me start by saying I am glad to be a Priestess with my Patron being Loki. You do NOT have to be Loki’s godspouse to be a Lokean. I would far sooner consider myself one of His children than one of His wives. And I wouldn’t want it any different. I pray no one is frightened away from being a Lokean because they think they have to wed Loki to be a Lokean.
A godspouse, as defined by anyakless, is “someone who has a longterm/lifetime intimate relationship with a deity that seems to somehow mirror human marriage (although there can be striking and important differences). This is usually a role officially acknowledged by the deity and confirmed by other members of your community in various ways.”
I have many issues in believing anyone to be a godspouse of Loki.
The Norse culture of the past did not condone a man having multiple wives. A man could sleep with many women, but as it was pointed out by Viking Answer Lady, “The only restriction that seems to have existed on a man’s sexual activity was to penalize a man for fornication, making him pay a small fine for sleeping with a woman not his wife. Sturlunga saga indicates that “almost universally, men indulged in extramarital affairs with numbers of women before, during, and after marriage” (Jenny M. Jochens, “The Church and Sexuality in Medieval Iceland,” Journal of Medieval History. 6 : pp.383-384).” Extramarital, as in they had one wife and numerous concubines.
Even the culture of the Norse Gods, Loki is married to Sigyn. He has slept with many beings, jotunn, man, horse. However, the only one He is wed to is Sigyn. Loki has, around myself, never used the term “godspouse” to refer to any of His other worshipers. If you discount my own personal experience – which you’re free to do – it’s nearly impossible to ignore the fact that Loki has taken on different forms and fathered and mothered numerous children without ever claiming to be wed to another.
The term godspouse may work with other deities, in my opinion, but Loki isn’t one of them.
It is possible to have an intimate, close connection with Loki without being His “godspouse.” I wouldn’t be one to throw the term around much anyway in referring to any form of worship, as the connotations for a godspouse sounds as if it is something sacred that takes many, many, many years to attain, and may not be applicable to all deities in the first place.
I myself feel a very deep, special connection between myself and Loki. Would I be so brash as to claim it is as if we are married? No. It is a connection like I am one of His children, where He takes me under His wing and protects me, and teaches me, and cares for me. I would never call our connection a marriage, and I believe we are both content with it being that way. Loki has been my patron for 9 years now, 10 come April.
I have consulted Him on this, and while I am not the “Voice of Loki” and would NEVER claim to be, it’s important to recognize that godspousery is a very serious thing to claim and does not make sense when claiming it with certain deities, Loki being one of them.
If you wish to portray a closeness and solidarity to Loki, similar to a Catholic nun or monk, that’s fine. But a godspouse does not sound like the correct word for it, if that’s the case. Spiritual concubine, perhaps? But not a godspouse.
Additionally, to achieve this sort of rank with any deity, removing the sexual aspect of the idea completely, where it would be as if you both are that intimate and close with one another… it does not happen instantly. Just because you can marry in 10 minutes in Las Vegas doesn’t mean it happens that quickly between yourself and a deity. Years of dedication, years of worship, years of learning and meditation should be present before even dancing with the term godspouse.
I am sure there will be those among you reading this who will say, “This woman is not a true Lokean, for I am wed to Loki!” You know what? That’s. Fine. Just don’t go telling people that you have to wed Loki to be a Lokean, and don’t tell me that after a month of reading about Loki and the occasional prayer you’re suddenly His godspouse. It just doesn’t fly.
That being said, anyone who has been called by Loki, welcome. And don’t be afraid of having to wed Loki in order to be a Lokean or to be close to Him – you don’t.
Edit as of October 25th, 2011: Elizabeth Vongvisith provides thoughtful insight on the matter. A must read for either side of the argument.